"I wouldn’t necessarily mind people not knowing I’m gay, but I don’t like being thought of as straight — in the same way that I don’t mind people not knowing I’m a writer, but it would be awkward if they assumed I was an extreme skateboarder, because that’s so far removed from the reality of my life. But there is no blank slate where orientation is concerned; we are straight until proven otherwise. And if you’ve never seen how dramatically a conversation can be derailed by a casual admission of homosexuality, let me tell you, it gets awkward."

My Life as an Invisible Queer (via feministlibrarian)

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"

Black parenting is often too authoritative. White parenting is often too permissive. Both need to change.

In college, I once found myself on the D.C. metro with one of my favorite professors. As we were riding, a young white child began to climb on the seats and hang from the bars of the train. His mother never moved to restrain him. But I began to see the very familiar, strained looks of disdain and dismay on the countenances of the mostly black passengers. They exchanged eye contact with one another, dispositions tight with annoyance at the audacity of this white child, but mostly at the refusal of his mother to act as a disciplinarian. I, too, was appalled. I thought, if that were my child, I would snatch him down and tell him to sit his little behind in a seat immediately. My professor took the opportunity to teach: ‘Do you see how this child feels the prerogative to roam freely in this train, unhindered by rules or regulations or propriety?’

'Yes,' I nodded. “What kinds of messages do you think are being communicated to him right now about how he should move through the world?”

And I began to understand, quite starkly, in that moment, the freedom that white children have to see the world as a place that they can explore, a place in which they can sit, or stand, or climb at will. The world, they are learning, is theirs for the taking.

Then I thought about what it means to parent a black child, any black child, in similar circumstances. I think of the swiftness with which a black mother would have ushered her child into a seat, with firm looks and not a little a scolding, the implied if unspoken threat of either a grounding or a whupping, if her request were not immediately met with compliance. So much is wrapped up in that moment: a desire to demonstrate that one’s black child is well-behaved, non-threatening, well-trained. Disciplined. I think of the centuries of imminent fear that have shaped and contoured African-American working-class cultures of discipline, the sternness of our mothers’ and grandmothers’ looks, the firmness of the belts and switches applied to our hind parts, the rhythmic, loving, painful scoldings accompanying spankings as if the messages could be imprinted on our bodies with a sure and swift and repetitive show of force.

I think with fond memories of the big tree that grew in my grandmother’s yard, with branches that were the perfect size for switches. I hear her booming and shrill voice now, commanding, “Go and pick a switch.” I laugh when I remember that she cut that tree down once we were all past the age of switches.

And then I turn to Adrian Peterson. Not even a year ago, Peterson’s 2-year-old son, whom he did not know, was murdered by his son’s mother’s boyfriend. More recently, Adrian Peterson has been charged with negligent injury to a child, for hitting his 4-year-old son with a switch, in a disciplinary episode that left the child with bruises and open cuts on his hands, legs, buttocks and scrotum.

"

Brittney C Cooper, Ph.D., "The racial parenting divide: What Adrian Peterson reveals about black vs. white child-rearing" (via sonofbaldwin)

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peachfangas:

soundlyawake:

vinebox:

can a clap be offbeat with no music?

^^^

^^^^^^^^^^

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thefingerfuckingfemalefury:

intricatelystructuredjewel:

thecomicsvault:

STORM By Paul Smith
Real Name: Ororo MunroeOccupation: AdventurerAliases: In Kenya & Teanzania Storm was known as “Beautiful Windrider”Group Affiliation: X-Men, The MorlocksPowers: Storm is a mutant with the ability to psionically manipulate the weatherFirst Appearance: Giant-Size X-Men #1 (May 1975)

That mohawk!!

Ororo with the mohawk is a THING OF BEAUTY <3 
Rock that mohawk Ororo
You flawless goddess <3

thefingerfuckingfemalefury:

intricatelystructuredjewel:

thecomicsvault:

STORM By Paul Smith

Real Name: Ororo Munroe
Occupation: Adventurer
Aliases: In Kenya & Teanzania Storm was known as “Beautiful Windrider”
Group Affiliation: X-Men, The Morlocks
Powers: Storm is a mutant with the ability to psionically manipulate the weather
First Appearance: Giant-Size X-Men #1 (May 1975)

That mohawk!!

Ororo with the mohawk is a THING OF BEAUTY <3 

Rock that mohawk Ororo

You flawless goddess <3

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Just Talking…

itsthelesbiana:

It’s annoying having natural hair talk with my mother.
Her hair is straight, btw.

Me: *sends her a picture of me*
Her: your hair is losing its curl
Me: no it’s not
Her: I think it’s damaged
Me: I haven’t worn my hair in a super curly state in weeks
Her: well why not? People are going to think it’s damaged
Me: why would they? Because I like it big and fluffy not tamed and wavy/curly?
Her: I like it like that.
Me: right, YOU do.

That just irritated me.

I feel this on a spiritual level. 

Me: Sitting at the dinner table. 

My mom: So when are you going to get a perm?

Me: I’m not. 

Her: Well, you should consider it. It doesn’t even look nice, just… big. 

Me: I like it this way. The only other style I’m considering, besides my wigs, are dreds.

Her: But that’s just so… permanent.

Me: Yup. 

Her: *rolls eyes*


Naomi Sims for Harper’s Bazaar, December 1968 (via)

Naomi Sims for Harper’s Bazaar, December 1968 (via)

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zcsramblezusit:

Diego Rivera - Nude with Sunflowers (1946)

zcsramblezusit:

Diego Rivera - Nude with Sunflowers (1946)

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Chanel Urban Tie Cap

bootykage:

Chanel Urban Tie Cap

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Channeling my inner Zoolander tbh.

Channeling my inner Zoolander tbh.

muuuuuuusic:

Say you’ll never fall again… you won’t subject yourself to such pain…

isharedfoundlove OH MY GODDDDDDDDDDDDDDD!!!!!

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I can relate..

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isharedfoundlove This looks like your closet’s future babe!

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